This post was published in Norwegian 1th of August 2021.

Are we women over 50 really “past our prime,” or is there still hope?

It’s well-known that hormone production decreases with age, and whether we like it or not, it affects our radiance. There’s no denying that young women emit more pheromones than we do in our 50s, and they say that what you project, you attract. But is all hope really lost, or is there something we can do?

Earlier this year, Frode Thuen wrote an article in Aftenposten that more or less concluded that women over 50 are off the market. It all started with a woman complaining about hopeless men and wondering if women were simply too demanding.

When the first signs of menopause appeared, I feared that the entire sexual phase of my life was coming to an end. But then I came across a book by Christiane Northrup, The Secret Pleasures of Menopause. The author assured us mature women that the sexual energy is still there – perhaps even stronger than before. It just needs to be awakened. One of her tips for reviving it was to read erotic literature. “Perfect,” I thought. “I might as well write erotic literature myself.” Another opportunity to pursue my writing dream. That summer, I began writing intuitive erotic short stories. And yes, the energy shifted.

One warm summer day, I went to Bygdøy. Not to the nudist beach, as that chapter is definitely behind me, but to a small, secluded cove with just a few people scattered around on the rocks. I settled down with my notebook. When I write, I see a movie in my mind, and the images emerged once again. The energy came to life. Hours flew by, and I barely noticed the people around me. Eventually, I was interrupted by raindrops falling on my notes. I glanced at the clock and realized it was time to go; my parking was about to expire.

“Are you leaving already?” A man sitting a few meters away asked. “The rain will pass soon, you don’t need to go.”

The few drops had already dried up.

“Yes, I have to. My parking is running out,” I replied, continuing to pack up.

“That’s a shame,” he said. “Otherwise, you could have had a glass of wine.”

“Yes, it is,” I replied. He wasn’t bad-looking, either.

“Maybe we could meet for a drink later?” he suggested.

Why not? I gave him my number.

The next day, I received a text, and we met. In fact, we met several times (but that’s another story).

He asked what I was writing, and I replied that it was a secret. “Maybe I’ll tell you later,” I said. It felt a bit embarrassing at the time. But if you’re reading this now, you have the answer. It was an erotic story. Now, I’m metaphorically undressing and sharing what I haven’t dared to before, so here is the answer.

What you project is what you attract. For me, it worked. Maybe it’s time I head out into the city and start writing erotic stories again? Who knows what I might attract?

Sexual energy is our life force, and there’s no doubt that it makes us more vibrant and attractive. My upcoming novel in English is about how sexual energy can heal us, deepen our connection with the divine within, and set us free.

If you haven’t read the previous post ‘Mask Dance’ yet, you can check it out here for more reflections.

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